Wedding Invitation Wording – What’s the Etiquette?

Wedding Invitations

Whilst preparing to write this post, I did a bit of online research on wedding invitation wording.

Most articles I found read pretty much the same, preaching about how you ‘must’ do this and you ‘mustn’t’ do that and it’s the height of rudeness to do the other – well there will be no ‘must’ and ‘must not’s’ in this article; it’s your wedding and you can do what you like!

Read on to find out how to write your wedding invitations and a checklist of important information you should include.

How should your wedding invitations be written?

There are numerous ways to word your invitations but traditionally whoever is hosting the wedding (or footing the bill!) invites you to it. This is often the bride’s parents but with many couples now paying for most or all of their own wedding and family situations changing, there are all sorts of variations.

This can include:

  • Just the couple’s name (John & Jennifer request the pleasure of your company at their wedding)
  • The couple with their parents (John & Jennifer along with the parents request the pleasure of your company…)
  • Both sets parents (Mr & Mrs Smith and Mr & Mrs Brown request…)
  • Divorced parents who have remarried (Mr Andrew Brown and Mrs Anna White request…)

Formal wedding invitation wording

The main decision you need to make is whether you want formal or informal wording. There are plenty of variations and we’d recommend choosing whatever you feel most comfortable with, or whatever best fits your wedding theme.

Here is an example of standard or formal wedding invitation wording which you can adapt to suit you:

Mr and Mrs Paul Ainsworth

request the pleasure of your company

at the marriage of their daughter

Rebecca Ainsworth


David Owens


Saturday 6th April 2013 at 1pm

All Hallows Church, Clitheroe Road, Clitheroe, BB7 9PH

followed by a reception at

Mitton Hall, Mitton Road, Clitheroe, BB7 9PQ

Carriages at 1pm

RSVP by 15/02/2013 to Mr & Mrs Ainsworth

2 Cottage Lane, Clitheroe, AB1 2CD

Informal wedding invitation wording

Depending on your wedding theme, you may want something a little more informal. Perhaps you’re having a garden party style wedding or an unusual theme; consider incorporating some fun wedding invitation wording.

Just remember to keep it simple and not over-wordy so guests don’t get confused. But as long as your invites give your guests all the information they need, you can have as much fun as you like with your wedding invitations!

Important information to include

Finally, you need to make sure your invitations give your guests all the necessary details about your wedding. Follow our handy checklist to make sure you don’t miss anything out:

  • Bride and groom’s full names
  • Date and time of the wedding
  • Ceremony and reception venue(s) with full address
  • Finish time (so people can book taxis – you can put ‘until late’ if you’re not sure)
  • RSVP date and address (you could also include a phone number, email address or wedding website if you have one)
  • Request for dietary requirements with RSVP
  • Dress code (if it’s different from the norm)

These are the key bits of information for the main invitation. A lot of couples will also include another sheet with additional information which won’t fit on the main invite. This doesn’t have to match your invitations and is often printed at home to save on costs. Information may include:

  • Guest list information (do you have one, how can guests access it, what you would like instead if you don’t have a guest list)
  • Directions to the church & venue
  • Parking information
  • Local accommodation
  • Local taxi numbers
  • Policy on children (are they invited or not)

And there you have it – now you know everything you need to know about wedding invitation wording. If you’re ready to start sending your invites, head over to Party Delights to order your personalised invitations.